One solution to the “Do you invite the in-laws to the bachelor party?” situation is to have two bachelor parties.
You have what everyone THINKS is the bachelor party. You make it classy. Maybe you invite the bride’s father to a steak dinner with the boys. That should double the dowry right there.
Then a week later you have the second bachelor party. The REAL bachelor party. That’s the bachelor party with the strippers and hookers and debauchery. Only a select group of men can be invited to that one.
But you have the perfect cover. When someone asks how was your bachelor party you can always describe the one that you had with the father-in-law. No one needs to know about your secret bachelor party.
Then a week later you have the second bachelor party. The REAL bachelor party. That’s the bachelor party with the strippers and hookers and debauchery. Only a select group of men can be invited to that one.
In fact, even better . . . have the second bachelor party be a friend’s birthday party. At one wedding I went to, we had the Bachelor Party and then we had “Jay Reimer’s Birthday” a week later. Let’s agree . . . lots of craziness at “Jay Reimer’s Birthday”
But you have the perfect cover. When someone asks how was your bachelor party you can always describe the one that you had with the father-in-law. No one needs to know about your secret bachelor party.
A variation of this plan is the bachelorette party switch. As a comedian, I’m often stuck entertaining hundreds of bachelorettes at comedy shows. What usually happens is AFTER the comedy show the groom’s mother goes home and the single bachelorettes go out for the REAL bachelorette party with male stripper and creepy scavenger hunts.